Comments for Save ThePsychoExWife.com

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by wethankyou

wethankyou — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 06:23:11 +0000

Mr. M, Thank you, your website was tremendously supportive and helpful to a lot of people, including myself. I had no idea from reading thru it who you or your ex was since it was kept very anonamous. The advice about keeping contact to a minimum and all the other valid information with a BPD/PEW saved me and my husband added grief. My husband and I went thru 10 years of this kind of BPD behavior your site described. We are luckier than some of those who I read about on you site in that my husband has full custody and the Bio Mom/BPD Ex is out of state. She still has done most everything I read about on your site though – even from afar a BPD can be very toxic on a child and everyone involved.

Your site functions as a support group on-line and as such the judge has violated your rights to Free Speech. No doubt about it in my opinion. I hope you continue your fight – it is one about rights. Matt Lauer and the producers of the Today Show would be best served to read up on Borderline Personality Disorder before slanting such a piece the way that they did. The movie “Margot at the Wedding” staring Nicole Kidman also gives some insight into the toxic damage BPD mothers do to their children. Those who go thru these kinds of ordeals involving kids most certainly need places to come together – whether in person or on the internet – and vent/share etc.

Thank you for pushing on as it is your right and the rights of so many others that you are defending.

We Thank You.

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by Julie

Julie — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 04:13:36 +0000

I am a woman, married to a man whose first wife abused him emotionally. I am also a survivor of abuse. I am staggered by the relentless lack of justice in the family law system in Canada. We have both of us fought thoughts of suicide because of the incredible craziness of the system that encourages and exacerbates the nasty, destructive, and life-altering behaviour of his ex-wife. No one would believe what we have been through without experiencing something similar themselves. It is utterly unfathomable, and we are both in shock. While his ex-wife lives on $15 000 per month of his money (more than what he actually earns), we will be slowly dwindling saved resources until we and our child are homeless. We are continually told to suck it up and that our child does not matter as much as his other children. It is a sin, and I say shame on anyone who is not open-minded enough to hear the voices of suffering people. The psycho-ex wife website did something no one else did for us — people listened and validated the unbelievable suffering and pain we are experiencing at the hands of an incredibly nasty, uncaring woman who uses her children as pawns. The real issue here is not the website — the drama about the website is hiding the real issue which is about the devastating injustices that are not treating all people as equal with equal rights under the laws.

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by EndOfMyRope

EndOfMyRope — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 21:46:54 +0000

This website was totally anonymous until the ex-wife chose to show it to the children. The website has been a great source of comfort to myself and others who have to go through this type of abuse from an ex. At least we know we are not alone and it helps us know how to handle certain situations based on other people’s knowledge and experience. I know it saved my sanity several times.

The judge was wrong. There were no identifying names, towns, etc. in the website. The ex-wife is the only one who made it known to her children who she says she is trying to protect.

The Today Show did an abysmal job of researching what was actually happening and should be ashamed to consider themselves journalists.

And the ex-wife, who was “so embarrassed” by the anonymous website has now made it public knowledge. Way to keep that embarrassing info a secret!

Good luck Mister M and DW!

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by Ellen

Ellen — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 05:08:58 +0000

Like The Mayor’s Wife, I found this website by googling, “psycho ex-wife”. My husband’s ex surely has borderline personality disorder. If they’d had kids together, I don’t think we’d have dated long enough to even consider getting married. They shared custody of a couple of dogs for a while…or so my husband thought, until one of them had to be put down. We decided to keep the other because we were willing to get it a new companion (the ex was not) and she had the whole world contact my husband to beg him to give back the dog, including her ancient mother. (No telling how many of their mutual friends just lied and said they would talk to him, but did not actually do it.) We finally got a letter from her lawyer saying that if we didn’t give back the dog my husband would be arrested, and I would be the defendant in a civil suit. Turns out that since the dogs were in her possession when the settlement was signed, they were technically hers the entire time, but she had guilted my husband into being the dog babysitter and vet-bill-payer for quite some time. When we got married I insisted that we would have the dogs 50 percent of the time and only pay 50 percent of the bills, and that we would have a schedule laid out for the entire year in advance. This helped changed my husband’s tendency to just obey his ex (they were together 18 years before she dumped him), but it wasn’t until she demonstrated that she’d have us arrested and deprive the remaining dog of a companion that my husband really saw what a piece of work she was. Since then we have not heard much from her, although for a while she attempted to ask my husband for the odd favor now and then.

I took great solace from this web site during the first couple of years I was married. I didn’t see the Today Show piece, but it sounds like they did not do enough research to understand what a BPD ex is capable of, and that there are a LOT of them around.

As I read the PEW website, it shed light on how to deal with my husband’s ex, and I thought Mister M sounded like he was handling his situation admirably. And honestly, the kids are going to look back on their childhoods and know exactly who was responsible and consistent, and who wasn’t…the website was a source of embarrassment to the mother, so she wrapped her teeth around that bone and wouldn’t let go. The judge was wrong to tie freedom of speech (or lack of it) to access to the children.

Wishing you success, Mister M.

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by Stef

Stef — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 05:52:51 +0000

LOVE your reply! Exactly!

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by Jenn

Jenn — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 21:13:37 +0000

This will be short and to the point….Thank you Thank you Thank you for your website and for having the courage to fight for what is right. I am sorry for all that you are having to deal with. Although our familes situation is not exactly like what you have gone through we have gone through enough to know that changes need to be made in the shoddy Family Court system and that someone such as yourself and your partner should be applauded for being brave and sticking your neck out on the line. People need to wake up and see what is really going on in the Family Courts and do more to change it. Fathers are an asset and deserve the same rights that mothers have. PEW’s are A%^’s and I am tired of these women acting like they are victims and our society feeding into their sickness. We wish you and your family the best.

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by dja

dja — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 03:47:46 +0000

Earlier I posted a video that I think captures the essence of parental alienation and the effects it has on parents and children. Based on feedback from forums like this one, I’ve edited and improved it. I’d be interested in any additional feedback, and comments as to whether videos like this one might serve a purpose. Thanks!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJDsruc-xxg

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by samary2219

samary2219 — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 01:35:46 +0000

I submitted a letter to The Today Show after the segment ran showing my frustration at their reporting only part of the story because they clearly did not read the content of the crazy e-mails. In reading all of the responses here, it still frustrates me to no end to see people judging this man because they have absolutely no concept whatsoever of what he has had to endure, and what it is truely like to deal with the insanity of a BPD ex-wife/mother. There IS no way to move on! You are constantly being bombarded with nonsensical hate texts, e-mails, and the kids are calling and asking you if you are being “mean” to their mother like she tells them, when all you’ve done is pay on time, follow the law, and said nothing negative about your ex to your kids. The court has little interest in this aspect of the custody arrangement, and doesn’t have the sophistication to even begin to understand it. The only other people who you can talk to are the ones who have experienced it. Seeing the nasty replies on this site is discouraging. Please don’t judge unless you have been there, and personally, for those of you who THINK you’ve been there, but have risen above it, YOU HAVEN’T BEEN THERE, TRUST ME! The PEW web-site has been helpful to myself and my boyfriend who is divorced from a BPD, and it is unbelievably time consuming just trying to defend ourselves and plan for every conceivable crazy tactic she will try at the next child exchange. One of her latest tricks was to insist that he take a child to the doctor who wasn’t sick, and then report him to Human Services because he didn’t do what she said, because he was “being neglectful”. All this after a call to the doctor resulted in his being told the child did not need to be seen. It’s NUTS ALL THE TIME! The PEW web-site has been helpful to us in both having the knowledge that there are others out there, as well as reading the advice on answering (or not answering) crazy e-mails. As with many other BPD’s, she was the one cheated while married, not him. I met him a year after the divorce. I’ve just got to figure out if I can perservere in having to deal with such a mean crazy ex-wife who demands so much time and energy from our relationship. There’s no way to ignore it; it IN YOUR FACE all the time!

Been there, still there, only six months in and exhausted.

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by LL

LL — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 16:03:44 +0000

I have read all archives and followed thepsychoexwife for a long time. I am very fortunate in that my ex-husband and I are still friends and co-parent our kids as if we are still married. We put up a united front and even just had a “family meeting” last Friday to address an issue with out son. So I have no dog in the “my ex is crazy” fight.

That being said, I followed thepsychoexwife because a friend of mine has major, MAJOR issues with his ex and the way the courts treat him. I have seen first hand his great parenting, his ex’s abhorrent behavior, and the support of the family court on her behalf to continue abusing him. Mister-M worked so hard to shield his children and even his ex from being publicly identified that I wasn’t even aware of what state they lived in until this story hit the public news sites with their names and state listed.

It is very unfortunate that those who have not bothered to follow this whole story are passing judgment on a situation they know NOTHING about.

Mister-M, hang in there. I’m still in your corner.

Comment on The Today Show Addendum by Heather

Heather — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 18:02:30 +0000

I could write a novel about this very question! My husbands ex used to throw that term around all the time. The kicker is that my husband paid child support on time, every month. Wanted to see his kids whenever she would “allow” (until I encouraged him to stand up to the visitation he had listed in the divorce decree). He thought it would be better for the kids to not “rock the boat” but then when his ex started trying to tell him WHEN he could see his kids, WHERE he would see them and WHAT he would do while seeing them…he realized he had to do something. His daughter, 4, showed up one day saying “My daddy sucks!” and laughing. It boggles my mind. His ex used to tell him his 1 year old HATED him….great job mom! How does your 1 year old know what HATE is? She would love nothing more for him to disappear (but not his monthly check!) The projection this woman doles out is laughable. Women love to call their ex’s “deadbeat” because they get the attention and sympathy from others they are craving.

On another note…my dad WAS a deadbeat dad. He rarely paid my mother child support and lived in another state. You would think that I would have no relationship with him whatsoever, right? Well I DO. Because even through it all, our mother didn’t talk badly about him, she rolled up her sleeves and did what she had to do to raise three kids on her own. Too many of these ex’s think the world OWES them something bc they popped a kid out of their golden uterus. And what is happening is they are raising a generation of kids that thinks the WORLD owes them something. And they have the backing of the “family” courts. I shudder to think what it will be like in 10 years…